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Jessy Easton's avatar

I loved this. Now where to move? I don’t want to stay where I am and all I know is the sea is calling.

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Shelby Elsbree's avatar

Oooo Jessy I'm going to nudge you towards San Francisco! Recently moved here from NY myself and absolutely not one regret... sea, sun, space!

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

One of my good friends is moving to San Francisco this month and she’s so excited!! So happy to hear that you’re loving it!!

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

Ooooh yesss I’m here for anywhere close by the water!

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mackenzie magrath's avatar

I loved reading this. #1 gives me hope as someone who is turning 30 next month. Hoping to leave all of the comparison and anxieties in my twenties and focus on what's in my control. Thanks so much for sharing <3

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

Happy early birthday!! So happy this resonated. Theres something about time feeling like it’s moving so fast that what’s out of our control is louder but there’s so much peace when focusing on the in our control. Still has to be a daily reminder sometimes but it makes all the difference.

My best friend actually suggested yesterday to sit in the anxieties / comparison for 90 seconds and then focusing on what you can actually control after those 90 seconds feels a lot easier so going to try that too!

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Naomi Gale's avatar

Every decade just keeps getting bloody better ❤️‍🔥

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

YES IT DOES

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Hannah's avatar

As someone who recently turned 31, thank you for writing this! Many of these habits are applicable to my life, and I found your words really comforting and inspiring. There are so many “how to be in your 20s” articles out there and not enough advice for the 30 somethings 🤍

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

Im so happy this resonated. I was thinking about this the other day - there’s so so much about 20s and it feels like crickets for 30 something’s. I know a lot of it is probably because what’s directed towards 30 something’s is maybe done in the form of motherhood etc but I do crave for of it too!

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carolina ramirez herrera's avatar

Love this. Love when the barista remembers your name

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

right? it really makes it feel like you've found community

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Lexx's avatar

this was really great!! I will be adding a few of these to my journal. great read <3

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

Omg yay I’m so happy this resonated!! 💕💕

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Irene's avatar

My 30s are so much better than my 20s!

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

I love hearing this!! I never really believed it until I started experiencing it. 30s are SO good!

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Jasmine's avatar

This was such a refreshing read! Loved it :)

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

💕💕💕

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Pop Apologists's avatar

Loved this so much 🫶🏻 so astute

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

💕💕💕 appreciate that so much!! Yay for a new decade

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priyasha's avatar

Resonated with the first point so hard. The immense clarity that I have now between what situations to fret upon and what to forget about cause they’re not under my control is so liberating. Is this why most people say their 30s are better than their 20s haha

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

Right?? It’s like oh if I had known this was on the other side of 29 I would’ve be so much less panicked!

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ellen⭐️'s avatar

I needed to hear this, especially moving to a different town or city. i want to move to copenhagen so bad and i visit there quite a bit but i have family and a partner here in the UK

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

Im so happy it found you at the right time! I definitely feel you on the challenge of when there’s more people directly affected by another move. I do love that you get to at least visit there quite a bit and can get that fix in!

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Beate's avatar

Great advice for any age.

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

💕💕💕 so glad this resonated!!

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Namrata Gohain's avatar

My favourite is number 1! Doing that is so important. I love my 30s and have no clue why the obsession over being a 20-something still exists.

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

Right?? It's wild how quickly transition between fearing my 30s because we're told the 20s is where it's at to then a giant sigh of relief in our 30s

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Annie Hickey's avatar

Love this, edging into my 30s myself and need the reminders that this new decade is one of potential!

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

The most potential! I know it can seem daunting but something really does somehow just switch on of being like “wow I didn’t realize life could be like this!”

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Gloria Bui's avatar

Get the second dog! Love that validating nudge.

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

Do it do it!! I can’t imagine not having my two little silly gooses

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Shelby Ballif Mortensen's avatar

Truly loved and needed this list. Thank you!

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Monica Woodhams's avatar

Im so glad it resonated!! 💕💕💕

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